Hinge, Tinder, Match.com, Christian Mingle…whichever app or website you prefer, I can guarantee if you’ve been going on dates, you’ve had a couple doozy’s along the way. Here are 5 great tips for finding a great date online that have helped me over anything else!
1. Avoid generic personal descriptions & look for diverse photos
If someone takes the time to think through what they’re looking for or what they enjoy in life, it’s a good sign they are more serious than those who put an otter 🦦 for every response so they don’t have to write anything.
A few blurry face pics are not enough and show very little effort and therefore you can assume they probably aren’t taking this seriously. Make sure they’ve posted a full body photo, and at least ONE without wearing a hat, or else he is….? That’s right, BALD. And hey if you’re into a bald guy that’s fine too, but we are looking for honesty not a cat fish.
2. Have a a few Phone Calls or Text Conversations
It’s so fun and exciting when a cutie asks you for dinner or drinks after matching, but make sure they are also keeping up a conversation prior to the date. Otherwise they are just going on lots of dates most likely, and they don’t care with who as long as they find them attractive.
For example, if they have zero questions for me to see if they want to take me to dinner, I can usually assume they just want to have a good time and take me home at the end of the night. Sorry boys… not this girl.
If they don’t keep up a conversation with you or answer questions between you chatting and planning the date, I personally would lean towards canceling and say something like
“Hey so are you not much of a texter or what’s your communication style? I personally like to get to know someone a bit before a date and make sure we’re on the same page” and then depending on their answer you can have the date, or say “ok well I think at this point we are looking for different things, but I wish you the best of luck!”
3. Ask them what they’re looking for to understand their intentions before the date.
If you’re intentionally dating to find a relationship, there’s nothing worse then going on a date with someone super hot only to find they are not being intentional about wanting a long-term relationship. It’s always best to make sure you’re both on the same page… by simply asking.
Otherwise what can happen, is we flirt all night thinking things are going well, sleep with the hottie, and then become confused and frustrated when they don’t talk to you again after that.
I’m not about to become attached to some guy who isn’t even interested in the future I’m looking for. On to the next!
4. Never meet at someones house, always in a public place
This should be self explanatory, but I’ve had many guys online ask me to come over for a drink at their place when we had never met before. That is NOT an acceptable first date, and they should 100% know that would make a woman uncomfortable. So if they’re asking this IMO they are just a creep.
This is a big red flag as they could be dangerous and using that as an opportunity to kidnap you, or worse. Not to mention you are incredibly special and worth a planned date
5. Make sure they align with your belief systems
Do you have a smoking preference? Religious beliefs? Are you looking for someone who likes to Netflix and Chill or someone who enjoys a good night out? Ask REAL questions to truly understand if they fit into the lifestyle that you enjoy, and want to continue to be in. This is intentional dating. Remember you have boundaries because you VALUE yourself and you deserve it
That’s it ladies and gentlemen those are my top 5 tips to finding a great date! What have you learned through dating apps to avoid?
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